I knew August would be slow. No screenings scheduled, but a lot of communication.
Like many people, I was terminated from my part-time job on July 1st after being affiliated with a company for 18 years. I was very sad and a bit angry when it happened, but the film “Five Friends” has been an important support and distraction for me. I remember that there was one day recently when I was quite depressed and I started calling my male friends or setting time to get together to discuss what had happened to me. Some of my friends had lost their jobs as well.
I can not begin to tell you how important these friends have been for me the last 7 weeks. They have helped me navigate the change in my life with supportive words, humor, caring and siding with me that, “the company was wrong to do this to such a loyal employee.” But I and they can not change the loss of employment, but we can share love between us that heals me and provides me a sense of direction and a feeling that I am still “OK”. It is amazing how insecure you can get when you loose your job. For a man, work is often your identity. I guess I am begining to change my identity.
It is a time to reach out to friends when we get hurt and have our breath punched out of us. But thank goodness we have our friends to rely on – our male friends who get it!
That is where I am now.